Jedn\u00edm z naprosto nejcitliv\u011bj\u0161\u00edch t\u00e9mat v oblasti intimity je toxick\u00fd stud. A proto\u017ee je to t\u00e9ma, kter\u00e9 se na n\u011bjak\u00e9 \u00farovni t\u00fdk\u00e1 ka\u017ed\u00e9ho z n\u00e1s, pod\u00edv\u00e1me se na to trochu v\u00edc zbl\u00edzka. Toxick\u00fd stud \u010dasto nen\u00ed jen \u201ev\u00fdchovn\u00fdm\u201c otiskem z d\u011btstv\u00ed. Mnohdy n\u00e1m slou\u017e\u00ed jako ochrann\u00fd obal pro hlubok\u00e9 trauma, kter\u00e9 si t\u011blo i du\u0161e sna\u017e\u00ed zapomenout, uzav\u0159\u00edt, potla\u010dit. Tyto obrann\u00e9 obaly n\u00e1m dob\u0159e slou\u017e\u00ed v moment\u011b, kdy se s n\u011bjakou traumatickou ud\u00e1lost\u00ed setk\u00e1me, ale pokud si tuto obranu neseme nev\u011bdom\u011b d\u00e1l a br\u00e1n\u00ed n\u00e1m dosahovat skute\u010dn\u00e9 intimity, st\u00e1v\u00e1 se toxickou v na\u0161em \u017eivot\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem v n\u00e1s toxick\u00fd stud vznikne?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Jedn\u00e1 se o situace, kdy jsme byli na n\u011bjak\u00e9 \u00farovni n\u011bjak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem od n\u011bkoho zneu\u017eiti bez souhlasu, bez respektu nebo proti vlastn\u00ed v\u016fli \u2013 v d\u011btstv\u00ed nebo i v dosp\u011blosti:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Toto zneu\u017e\u00edvan\u00ed mohlo prob\u011bhnout na n\u011bkter\u00e9 z t\u011bchto rovin: (fyzick\u00e9, energetick\u00e9, slovn\u00ed). Toto jsou z\u00e1kladn\u00ed p\u0159\u00ed\u010diny vzniku toxick\u00e9ho studu v na\u0161em nitru. A co se d\u011bje, kdy\u017e tohle z\u016fstane nepojmenovan\u00e9 – nezv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00e9?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Emo\u010dn\u00ed a psychick\u00e9 n\u00e1sledky:<\/p>\n\n\n\n – Traumatick\u00e9 odpojen\u00ed od t\u011bla \u2013 t\u011blo je \u201en\u011bco, co m\u011b zradilo\u201c. T\u011blesn\u00e9 n\u00e1sledky:<\/p>\n\n\n\n – Chronick\u00e9 gynekologick\u00e9 obt\u00ed\u017ee \u2013 bolesti, z\u00e1n\u011bty, suchost, vaginismus. Vztahov\u00e9 n\u00e1sledky:<\/p>\n\n\n\n – Nemo\u017enost d\u016fv\u011b\u0159ovat partnerovi a pln\u011b se otev\u0159\u00edt do hlubok\u00e9 l\u00e1sky a intimity. Cesta z temnoty ven<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pr\u00e1ce s toxick\u00fdm studem, kter\u00fd m\u00e1 ko\u0159eny v traumatu, vy\u017eaduje \u010das, bezpe\u010dn\u00fd prostor a citliv\u00fd p\u0159\u00edstup. Je to delik\u00e1tn\u00ed proces n\u00e1vratu k sob\u011b, skrze:<\/p>\n\n\n\n – terapii zam\u011b\u0159enou na t\u011blo a trauma (nap\u0159. somatick\u00e9 pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed, biodynamick\u00e1 pr\u00e1ce), L\u00e9\u010den\u00ed nen\u00ed o tom, abychom zapomn\u011bli. Je o tom, \u017ee si dovol\u00edme znovu c\u00edtit \u2013 a tentokr\u00e1t ve sv\u00e9 s\u00edle, d\u016fstojnosti a pravd\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n „Vnit\u0159n\u00ed a skute\u010dn\u00e1 svoboda za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 tam, kde kon\u010d\u00ed stud“<\/p>\n\n\n\n Mnoz\u00ed lid\u00e9 \u017eij\u00ed s pocitem, \u017ee \u201en\u011bco je se mnou \u0161patn\u011b\u201c, \u017ee \u201eto se ned\u00e1 opravit\u201c, \u017ee \u201eu\u017e nikdy nebudu milovat\u201c \u2013 ale to nen\u00ed pravda. T\u011blo chce znovu c\u00edtit, milovat, d\u00fdchat, b\u00fdt dot\u00fdk\u00e1no s \u00factou. Du\u0161e tou\u017e\u00ed po svobod\u011b, po spojen\u00ed, po opravdovosti. A vztahy mohou b\u00fdt m\u00edstem, kde se to v\u0161e znovu rod\u00ed. A\u0165 u\u017e jsme za\u017eili cokoli \u2013 v\u017edy je mo\u017en\u00e9 vykro\u010dit na cestu dom\u016f. Do t\u011bla. Do pravdy. Do l\u00e1sky. Do posv\u00e1tn\u00e9ho prostoru ve kter\u00e9m m\u016f\u017eeme b\u00fdt sami sebou, bez zbyte\u010dn\u00fdch masek. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Jedn\u00edm z naprosto nejcitliv\u011bj\u0161\u00edch t\u00e9mat v oblasti intimity je toxick\u00fd stud. A proto\u017ee je to t\u00e9ma, kter\u00e9 se na n\u011bjak\u00e9 \u00farovni t\u00fdk\u00e1 ka\u017ed\u00e9ho z n\u00e1s, pod\u00edv\u00e1me se na to trochu v\u00edc zbl\u00edzka. Toxick\u00fd stud \u010dasto nen\u00ed jen \u201ev\u00fdchovn\u00fdm\u201c otiskem z d\u011btstv\u00ed. Mnohdy n\u00e1m slou\u017e\u00ed jako ochrann\u00fd obal pro hlubok\u00e9 trauma, kter\u00e9 si t\u011blo i du\u0161e […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":888,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","wds_primary_category":20,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-887","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-zdarma","pmpro-has-access"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/887","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=887"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/887\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":889,"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/887\/revisions\/889"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/888"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=887"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=887"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tantrahealing.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=887"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
– N\u00e1tlakov\u00e9 nebo manipulativn\u00ed sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed zku\u0161enosti (\u201ekdy\u017e m\u011b miluje\u0161, ud\u011bl\u00e1\u0161 to\u201c).
– Poru\u0161en\u00e9 hranice v d\u011btstv\u00ed \u2013 osah\u00e1van\u00ed b\u011bhem koup\u00e1n\u00ed, nevhodn\u00e9 intimn\u00ed doteky, invazivn\u00ed, ur\u00e1\u017eliv\u00e9 a poni\u017euj\u00edc\u00ed pozn\u00e1mky.
– Sexualita jako v\u00fdm\u011bna za l\u00e1sku, pozornost nebo bezpe\u010d\u00ed.
– Setk\u00e1n\u00ed s perverz\u00ed, kter\u00e1 nebyla v\u011bdom\u00e1, bezpe\u010dn\u00e1 ani konsenzu\u00e1ln\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Porucha sebehodnoty a identity \u2013 pocit \u201ejsem \u0161pinav\u00e1\/\u00fd, rozbit\u00e1\/\u00fd\u201c a nezaslou\u017e\u00edm si.
– \u00dazkosti, panick\u00e9 ataky, disociace p\u0159i sexu\u00e1ln\u00edm kontaktu.
– Sklony k sebetrest\u00e1n\u00ed, sebepo\u0161kozov\u00e1n\u00ed nebo naopak hypersexualizaci – promiskuit\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Erektiln\u00ed dysfunkce, p\u0159ed\u010dasn\u00e1 ejakulace, impotence.
– Blok\u00e1dy v p\u00e1nevn\u00edm dnu, bolesti p\u0159i styku, necitlivost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Odm\u00edt\u00e1n\u00ed sexu nebo naopak vyhled\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed riskantn\u00edch, poni\u017euj\u00edc\u00edch situac\u00ed.
– Zam\u011b\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed dominance za l\u00e1sku…a nebo hlubok\u00e1 submise vyhled\u00e1v\u00e1j\u00edc\u00ed sex jako zdroj kontaktu, p\u0159ijet\u00ed a l\u00e1sky, kter\u00e9 ale nikdy nep\u0159\u00edjde.
– Emo\u010dn\u00ed distance, nemo\u017enost pro\u017e\u00edvat autentick\u00e9 pot\u011b\u0161en\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– v\u011bdomou sexualitu (tantrick\u00e9 ritu\u00e1ly, posv\u00e1tn\u00fd dotek, pr\u00e1ce s dechem a hlasem),
– l\u00e9\u010div\u00e9 ritu\u00e1ly odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed, uct\u011bn\u00ed t\u011bla, navr\u00e1cen\u00ed hranic a vnit\u0159ni svobody.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
S l\u00e1skou
Michaela<\/p>\n\n\n\n